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way. Of course, there is also an unhealthy jealousy rooted in selfishness. This jealousy demonstrates itself in suspicion and fear, and it can make a husband feel strangled. However, a wife needs a faithful husband, and a husband who understands this need in his wife carefully guards her trust. He does not flirt with other women or look at obscene material. He guards his eyes, his humor, and his heart. He focuses his love faithfully upon the one woman in the world who is his wife. Basic Needs of a Husband In many ways, the needs of a husband are the counterpart to the needs of his wife. God made the woman with the man’s needs in mind (Genesis 2:18), and He equipped her with exactly the resources to meet those needs. So what are the needs of a husband? 1. A husband needs someone who depends on him. God has made the husband responsible to lead the home. There is something about the dependence of a wife which calls out the manliness of her husband. His manhood wants to provide, nurture, care for, and protect. He finds satisfaction and fulfillment in meeting the needs of his wife. Even as the A wise wife allows her husband to be her provider, but does not seek to manipulate him. husband can misuse his strength to dominate his wife, so a wife can misuse her weakness and dependence to manipulate her husband, using tears, frailty, and whining to play on her husband’s manhood in order to get her own way. Such “weakness” is as wearisome in a wife as domineering strength is in a husband. A wise wife allows her husband to be her provider, but does not seek to manipulate him. 2. A husband needs someone who accepts him as he is. Everyone has a basic need for acceptance, and marriage, the deepest level of human friendship, has great potential to meet that need. At the same time, it offers great potential for rejection. Nagging criticism and Loaves & Fishes • Issue 32 | 37


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