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Every Child Is Unique
My children are so different in their temperament and personality. How can I understand their
-HJ, Sarasota.
Often, as parents, we gear our
energy toward defending
or denying the strengths
and weakness of our child’s inborn
temperament needs. Each specific
temperament has struggles that are
unique to the child.
Their needs are also modulated by how
the family reacts to those needs. If we are
open to understanding their weaknesses,
then we can help resolve conict and get
along with each other. We are unique
individuals with a purpose.
Our temperament is affected by how
we were raised, our education, and
our environment. When a child’s
temperamental needs are not met, the
child feels stressed and conflicted.
Temperament determines how we interact
with our environment, and the people
around us.
The summer will be more relaxing and
peaceful if you take into consideration
how different your children are from each
other, and observe how they each have
fun and relax.
The following are a brief description of
the ve basic temperaments in inclusion
common to children. Inclusion is the
need in your child to establish and
maintain satisfactory relationships and
socialization needs.
A Melancholy in inclusion can be a loner,
very introverted and unsure of themselves.
Outwardly they can appear aloof, arrogant
and can be withdrawn. The Melancholy will
grow to need truth, order dependability
and reliability in the household.
This child can be hard to raise. Life
must be fair. They are great thinkers,
are creative and can be visionary and
persistent. This gifted temperament which
can become a great inventor, engineer,
painter or poet, can be moody and
critical. This child can be very sensitive
and they do not like crowds.
I would like to see this child spend the
summer visiting museums, taking an
art class, or reading up on their favorite
subject. They usually love to create, so
having building materials or art materials
handy, visiting craft stores or reading are
usually fun for these children.
Try out an electronics kit or have your child
make a meal from start to nish. Jigsaw
puzzles are fun for this temperament as
they can see the whole picture because
of their creativity, in their mind.
The Sanguine in inclusion is the opposite
of the Melancholy sibling. This personality
is happiest when going and doing. They
love people and must be the loudest,
funniest, and the most enthusiastic of
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