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Make Memories,
Don’t Buy Them…
I am newly divorced. How do I help my children through the holidays?
-Diana, Lakewood Ranch
Holidays can be stressful for all families
as children’s daily routines are
interrupted and expectations of a happy
holiday can be unrealistic. Children of
divorce are especially vulnerable at this
time of year.
Everyone wants the traditional Hallmark
kind of holiday, but that is something that
does not usually happen. Christmas can
intensify feelings of loss and sadness. And,
for children experiencing much change,
this time of year can be rough. Your
children will do as well as you do.
Have fun creating new memories and
traditions and be flexible, putting your
Focus on the good news that they will get
two Christmases, two birthdays, more
presents, etc... - and not on what they
will miss. Be sure to take care of yourself.
When the children are gone, create a
special time with friends and family to get
through this melancholy season.
Communicate and coordinate schedules
with the other parent well in advance.
Expectations with extended family can
not need double feasts and late nights.
Do not argue in front of the other parent.
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